Calming down

The other day my wife’s doctor was talking about situations for leaving the hospital, and unfortunately it looks like two requirements aren’t met.

My wife told me this as we were in the baby room looking after our son, in a very calming soothing voice so as not to disturb him.

I’m sure all new fathers feel this way, but I just could not believe how she transformed into this amazing, mature mother. Calmly telling me what was happening while giving our son all the love and attention he needs, as well as all the milk and diaper changes that he needs. (I am now trained and ready to give milk and change diapers on my visits.)

She is with our son for many hours a day, and I have only been really able to visit once a week for about an hour or so at a time, so her connection is obviously much stronger, but her behavior truly inspired me calm down and just do what needs to be done in the situation. (In the old fashioned times, we may have said “be a man”.)

I will be working a full week next week, and will be focusing on work as much as it requires. I’ve been taking some time off, but if my wife is still in the hospital with our son, I need to focus on what gives us the ability to have a good life, and ensure that I do a very good job of it. The more vacation days I use now, the less I can use when my wife and son are back at home. I must provide.

My rush to have our house clean was good, but there is no longer a rush, and I need to figure out how to fundamentally make our house clean and a good place for a baby. Floor coating is 5 years too late, but still a good idea. We have rooms that haven’t been properly organized ever, and this is the time that it can be done.

Lastly, I need to stop with the Uber Eats comfort food. This is the perfect time to increase the amount of savings we can do each month.

The time for hyper focusing on emotions and all that feels like it is over, and further processing should be done through constructive actions that lead to making our lives better.